Love is a choice. It’s not just a single choice we make on our wedding day. It’s a million choices we make each and every day for the rest of our lives. You make it when you prepare dinner for him. You make it when you bring flowers home to her. It’s evident when you choose to forgive a misstep. You see it when you opt to respect rather than criticize. It’s there when you make that decision to keep your eyes, heart, and mind pure and faithful to your spouse. You see it when you encourage and affirm your spouse. If marriage is a quilt, then each stitch is the choices and efforts put forth each and every day to make it the best it can be.
Love is not an emotion or feeling. Love is an action. A commitment. A decision. It can’t be based on fleeting, fickle feelings that come and go more quickly than we can comprehend. It doesn’t say, “I’ll love you as long as you deserve it, and I feel like it.” True love says, “I will love you no matter what, through thick and thin, whether I want to or not, and whether I feel like it or not. I will love you every day and in everything.” Love is commitment, and it weathers all of life’s storms and difficulties. It’s tenacious, unrelenting, and intentional.